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the good intentions of START YEAR

The New Year's good intentions are doomed to failure.
Stop smoking, get back to that beautiful pair of jeans now finished at the bottom of the cabinet, managed to crawl to the gym more than once a month: the good New Year's resolutions are a ritual for many of us, but according to a British psychologist is an exercise almost pointless and indeed, in some cases harmful.
Richard Wiseman and his team of researchers from the University of Hertfordshire have interviewed 700 people asking them if and how they managed to achieve the goals that were asked at the beginning of a new year. For some it was to lose weight, others to get some qualifications, for others to improve their personal relationships and so via.Ciò they discovered was quite daunting: in 78% of cases the good intentions fail, if those who leave them was set with a bad taste in mouth and unwilling to try again.
Wiseman also found that a recipe for failure and often to follow the advice of some self-styled experts, who suggest a range of strategies as a model; a person, imagine how you would if you were successful, to impose or resist any temptation to rely on its determination. "If you're trying to lose weight, attach the photo of a model to the refrigerator or imagine leaner is not enough," the student told the Guardian. According to the search results instead, to achieve their intentions are often people who have set a goal to conquer a series of interim targets, rewarding in some way when they have achieved. Among those who adopt this system, the chances of success are about 35%. Better yet if you decide later to confide to friends their goals, to focus on the positive effects of good intentions and to keep a diary of progress. Who takes all these strategies, with a probability of success of 50%. "Many of the techniques that are more successful have to do with the development of a plan and ways to help you follow," said Wiseman. On the contrary, to fail more often the good intentions are decided at the last minute. "If it's decided at the time, probably not really important and you put all the effort required. To fail in their ambitions and often damaging from a psychological standpoint and can deprive people of their sense of self," he warned the student, who also recommends a single goal at a time and enjoy it for small failures and relapses.

[source from ansa.it]